Well here I am again discussing my opinion about relationships. I have very different views on relationships I believe mostly because of my culture and just the way I was brought up I guess. Moving on, this sort of contradicts my last blog on relationships but I just wanted to discuss it anyway because of some things that have happened recently. I really believe that it takes very strong people to maintain a long relationship. I think for the most part, many people end up moving too fast in the beginning because everything always goes so well and they are so happy but then in many cases, it messes things up later on in the relationship. For example, my sister just got out of a seven month relationship, which for her was a big thing because she had never had one that long before. I think many of the problems that she had faced in that relationship was the fact that things had gotten too serious too fast. The things that she had encountered in that relationship were at levels that in my opinion, should not even occur until maybe a few years of being together. I feel as though sometimes people get too dependent on each other in relationships and when one little thing happens where that person cannot be there for any reason, then many problems can arise. I know in many people’s opinions, when they are with someone that they really care about, they feel that they need to spend all of their time together and nothing else matters but their relationship. I know that many people do often realize that this is not good and then they give each other their space but what sometimes happens is that if the space is given for too long then for some, they drift off and think about finding new people and different things. Basically, the way I see it is that either way, it is hard to win because when you spend so much time with a person, you get sick of them but when you are away then you realize what your true feelings are and that you might not even want to be with that person. It can however be the opposite though because I know for some that when they receive the space, they start to miss the person they were they with and vice versa so then it is also a good thing because the space was successful and they can go back to the way things were. I really feel that it is very easy for things to get complicated and that is why as I mentioned before, a lot of the time things don’t work out because of everything moving too fast. In my opinion, I think that before people get on levels such as kissing or getting too close, it is important to really get to know a person. As some say, opposites attract, this is true but not to a real extreme. I feel that it is very important to have someone that is somewhat like you so they can understand you on certain levels. Then again, the opposite part plays a large role as well because you need someone that has different yet positive qualities that you may not obtain, so you can absorb some of them and balance yourselves out. Overall, the way I analyze relationships is most likely in some ways the same as others but although many people know that they shouldn’t move too fast, get too serious too fast, or even make a move on the first date, I know that many of us still do these things just because sometimes it is hard to control and it may come naturally to grow close to someone quickly. On the whole, my views may be different then others’ but to me they make sense and I try to follow them as well as I can.
~Seeron Ali~
