Friend crushes, which happen to almost everyone, are the phenomenon that the article Boy Friend: Between Those Two Words, A Guy Can Get Crushed talks about. In the article it is pointed out that in a lot of friendships, on person secretly desires more than a friendship out of the relationship the two people have. This is fairly common, and can really take its toll on the person who desires more than friendship. It can be torture falling for someone that gives you mixed signals and does not really like you back to the same degree. At what point is the friend of the lovesick boy being a good friend, or stomping on his heart by leading him on. Many times people flirt or give off a flirtatious vibe when they are just goofing around, and someone who already is attracted to that girl often misreads it. As a guy who has been in this situation, I know that at that point, you think you are in, and you start putting all of your eggs in one basket. This is where you are the most vulnerable, and where most guys end up hearing, “sorry, I just want to be friends…” AKA the biggest blow to your heart possible. That phrase can basically rip a man’s heart out, throw it on the ground, and run it over with a car. Because this is such a common issue among adolescents, it makes you wonder why these situations arise. Is it because there are lots of girls who just flirt with anyone? Or are all teenage boys lovesick idiots who do not understand what goes through girl’s heads? Personally I think that when people are in High School and college, they watch a lot of TV and are involved with a lot of media. Pop culture tells them tales of forbidden romances, dating, falling in love, tragic obstacles, and of coarse… The Happy Endings. It is this false hope that is injected into the minds of young people that I think is the biggest driving force behind the heartbreak situation that this author decided to call friend crushes. I am not saying that pop culture is responsible for every teenage heartbreak, but I do think that MTV has the ability to make you want to date your best friend.
N. Krol
Final thought… Friend Crush is a really lame name in my opinion.
Nice job, NK. What name do you propose instead?
~Jenna G
Slight, somewhat relevant video post, “girls are not to be trusted” by Derrick Comedy. Good stuff on how girls can easily crush a guys heart, although this example is a little more extreme.
Anyways, I strongly feel that women are just born to be flirty. If not, men probably wouldn’t have the guts to go up to them and talk to them. It is just one way that our society has to advance through these primitive notions. They play with our hearts, they crush them, and we have to move on. Sure it sucks, but we all get over it eventually anyways.
Once again, forgot to post my name >_<
-Kozmor
I have to disagree, K. Women are not born to be flirty, they are made that way by a society that tells them they must be fetching and coquettish to catch a mate rather than straightforward or agressive. Side note.
aggressive
I have experienced the “friend crush” more times than I can count. I think if the person who has a crush on the other did not possess feelings that go beyond friendship for the other person, then that person wouldn’t even think twice about the “flirting” that the other person is doing. They would just dismiss it as playing around. Instead, they get their hopes up and think that something more could come of that friendship.
-Ashley Tune
i know what you mean man. i hate it when you meet someone who’s just a friend and you start to maybe kind of like them and then they out of just pure instinct flirt with you not thinking much of it and you start to get your emotions mixed in it, because i mean you can’t help it. then after a little while you work up the courage to tell them that you want maybe a little bit more than that and all they want is just a friend for many different reasons. they could already have someone in mind or just not like you like that. either way it sucks. nice post
Bryan Strimpel